“The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.” Fyodor Dostoyevsky
For the last 18 months, I have tried to meet my father for breakfast. He always tells me it’s too early in the am for me and then adds “son, I enjoy my quiet time. I read the paper and chat with my buddies”.
His disinterest would hurt at times but I respected his desire for solitude.
You see, my father is retired and no longer deeply engaged in meaningful work with others as he was for 45 years. He doesn't want to do much these days but watch war movies and take naps. It hurts my heart. He is reclusive and low energy. I feel as if he may be depressed. I am not sure.
My mother has been showing him my writings over the last few weeks and something wonderful is happening.
“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” ―Maya Angelou
My father is blooming. He’s passionate. He wants to contribute alongside me. He’s reinvigorated.
Tammy, (my lover, my ride or die) and I visited my folks Sunday and we had an amazing visit. My pops and I stepped outside to walk the dogs and I shared a message that I had received that morning.
It was a phone call from California, a lifelong friend of my uncles, my dads younger bro. He said my post moved him to tears and he couldn’t type so he had to pull over to call me. He finished the call by telling how much my father means to him, what a great man he is and how he has contributed positively to his life.
I shared this with my dad. He cried and gave me a hug.
Then he said “you’re finally in line with your
purpose son. I have waited for this moment. You’re inspired to give and contribute. I love seeing this and I love you.”
He then asked me another question; one I loved:
“Would you like to meet me for breakfast in the morning?”
Do you understand what the real meaning of life is?
I’m 46 and my father just taught me.
Finding your purpose, something that truly inspires you and benefits other peoples lives. That is the meaning of life.
Your journey should leave the world better off than before you were here.
The human struggle needs guidance, enrichment, support and love. I need it, you need it, we all need it.
I wish you well in your journey to find yours.
Thank you very much for reading. It’s greatly appreciated.
“No man or woman is an island. To exist just for yourself is meaningless. You can achieve the most satisfaction when you feel related to some greater purpose in life, something greater than yourself.” ―Denis Waitley