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Written By Darryl Waugh

On The Other Side Of Courage

Uncategorized Oct 10, 2019

“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.”
― August Wilson

For many years, I hid my issues behind the facade of success.

I made a lot of money.
I had the title.
I travelled the world.
I drove flashy cars.
I wore fancy clothes.
I chased shallow relationships.
I partied like a rockstar.

It was all a front to mask my insecurity, sadness and lack of fulfillment. I was afraid of judgment, rejection, pain and loss.

It took losing it all; my health, relationships, net worth, and everything that I attached to success to realize that life is incredibly enriching, beautiful and meaningful on the other side of courage.

I faced everything I was afraid of head on. I declared my issues, I sought help, I went to rehab. I stood in the heat of the fire.

I wanted to feel the essence of life.

I began to train jiu jitsu, weight train, swim, study, write, and...

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Discovering Your Purpose In Life

Uncategorized Oct 09, 2019

Some of us are looking for a more meaningful line of work or a way in which we can contribute to the betterment of those around us. Something that is enriching and profound. Something that moves us deep within; A purpose that is beyond the generality of a job and the duties of a position that doesn’t fit with our core values and who we are. 

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

Your “why” or your reason for committing fully to something should have a deeper meaning than being purely superficial. Otherwise, it is too easy to lose motivation, especially when times get challenging. It is too easy to become disheartened, detached and overly stressed as we feel the demands of tasks that don’t align with who we truly are. 

When we reside in these positions, we are not truly vested in our undertaking as it carries minimal meaning to you intrinsically.

Trying to simply “find your...

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Self Sabotage

Uncategorized Oct 05, 2019

How many of us have sabotaged our own lives in some capacity?

"But I do nothing upon myself, and yet I am my own executioner." John Donne

What have we done personally that has limited our careers, destabilized our closest relationships, hurt our own financial status and derailed our health and fitness? What would it mean to you to be able to overcome these issues and rectify them? What would your life look or how would it change for the better?

I hold my hand up high and state that I have been my own greatest obstacle in a multitude of circumstances. I have destroyed several opportunities, goals, and relationships, (sometimes knowingly) through my counterproductive actions, however subtle or blatant. I have stood in my own way far too many times.

It has taken me a long time and countless sessions on the therapy couch, to not only recognize but to openly admit that I am at times my own worst enemy.

 I believe many of us self-sabotage our own lives but we are afraid to come to terms...

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Overwhelmed? The Solution Is Here And Now

 

“We should not fret for what is past, nor should we be anxious about the future; men of discernment deal only with the present moment.” Chanakya

When we are under significant amounts of stress we tend to lose our perspective. We become overwhelmed, anxious, and at times irrational. It can feel as if we are contained and restricted.

We can become increasingly impulsive and overreactive. We bounce from one consideration to the next and from one task to another, never fulfilling our obligations or reaching our objectives. Remaining focused gets increasingly difficult.

As we evolve through life, we should strive to learn from the errors of our ways but reflection is easier when we are in a rational state, not panicked.

Evaluating our past during times of significant stress can have negative implications. We can harbor guilt, regret, shame, sadness, and anger. We desperately want to change the fact that something occurred though we understand the impossibility of that...

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Dip Your Pen In Pain

With the courage to share your journey comes the power to change a life.

Share your story. Your actual story. The one that you’ve run from, been terrified of and are ashamed of. The one that you know will make people look at you just a little differently.

Courage. It’s so rare.

You’re capable of changing someone’s life. You possess the lessons in life that matter. They're not for sale. Pain is the only tuition.

Forget the justifications, the postering, and the pretensions. It’s too transparent and too shallow. There’s no value in that book. It’s elementary.

Cut to the bone and declare your truth.

Someone somewhere needs to know that they’re not the only ones that feel a million miles from normal. Whatever that is.

Shit happens. Life. It’s the real deal baby.

You got off course. Took a wrong turn and ended up in no man’s land. We’re not the first and there’s zero chance we’ll be the last.

You have a history...

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Nobody Cares Who You Were

Uncategorized Aug 27, 2019

I was the President of that company.

Who cares? Nobody.

Past success in terms of positions held, achievements earned, levels of income attained, fame, and prominence can all run its course.

This phenomenon is all too common among athletes, business executives, and entertainers.

If you’re not committed and disciplined enough to remain focused on constant improvement, stagnation and irrelevance will quickly be upon you.

The world is always in motion and it’s feast or famine. Stay at the top of your game or become the game. Your past success means nothing in terms of guaranteed future results.

“The tragedy of life is not found in failure but complacency. Not in you doing too much, but doing too little. Not in you living above your means, but below your capacity. It’s not failure but aiming too low, that is life’s greatest tragedy.” Benjamin E. Mays

Life will forever be an ebb and flow. It is the culmination of your successes and your failures....

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Are You Exhausting Yourself For Others?

Uncategorized Jun 13, 2019

An analysis of how good intentions can ultimately lead to bad outcomes.

Stretching ourselves too thin on the quest to ease the obligation of those we care for as well as meeting the demands and expectations of superiors and partners can be a dangerous undertaking.

What starts as kindness and acquiescence often ends in exasperation and total fatigue. We strive tirelessly to take on other people’s tasks, and in the process, we exhaust ourselves to the point of emotional instability.

“Don’t chain your worries to your body. The burden soon becomes heavy and your health will give too much of itself to pick up the extra load.” Astrid Alauda

Ultimately, this can manifest in a series of unrealistic expectations and a toxic desire for acknowledgment and appreciation. When we do not receive it, our self-worth takes a hit. We can feel unworthy and incompetent taking us deeper into the rabbit hole.

Further, competition in the workplace can force you to make choices that...

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Stuck In Your Past And Blocked From Your Future

Uncategorized Jun 03, 2019

“Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.” Anais Nin

Too many of us are stuck in the past while being blocked from our future.

We all have a history. Some experiences bring back memories of joy, hope, love, and innocence. Other memories bring back feelings of cruelty, anger, sorrow, guilt, and resentment.

Our experiences are as unique to us as we are individual. Nothing is perfectly replicated.

With a past that is defined by pure happiness and success, continuing to move forward is simple. Life is wonderful, let’s keep rocking. I’ll take more of the same, please. Life is grand.

Rainbows and butterflies. That’s not reality.

This is the life of the sheltered. As pleasant as it sounds, living a charmed life by no means prepares you for the realities of life.

Entitlement is toxic. Life will never just give. There’s...

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The Life Lessons I’ve Learned And Why Its Never Too Late

Uncategorized Feb 03, 2019

There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time. Malcolm X

Nothing that we learn in life is too late. The experiences that didn’t go our way are meant to teach us, enrich us, strengthen us and guide us.

Wisdom isn’t something you acquire easily. It is the result of understanding the implications of your journey, both good and bad. You would not have the source (pain, loss, resistance) to grow as an individual if you didn’t have unfortunate circumstances. We need them to be the best version of ourselves.

Instead of defining these events as “too late in life,” choose to see them as wisdom gained and an education that no school can provide.

Here is a list of lessons that I have experienced, in no particular order of importance:

Nothing will ever be as important as your own personal health. Without it, you are not capable of helping others....

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