The Comeback Alliance Blog

Written By Darryl Waugh

Are You Exhausting Yourself For Others?

Uncategorized Jun 13, 2019

An analysis of how good intentions can ultimately lead to bad outcomes.

Stretching ourselves too thin on the quest to ease the obligation of those we care for as well as meeting the demands and expectations of superiors and partners can be a dangerous undertaking.

What starts as kindness and acquiescence often ends in exasperation and total fatigue. We strive tirelessly to take on other people’s tasks, and in the process, we exhaust ourselves to the point of emotional instability.

“Don’t chain your worries to your body. The burden soon becomes heavy and your health will give too much of itself to pick up the extra load.” Astrid Alauda

Ultimately, this can manifest in a series of unrealistic expectations and a toxic desire for acknowledgment and appreciation. When we do not receive it, our self-worth takes a hit. We can feel unworthy and incompetent taking us deeper into the rabbit hole.

Further, competition in the workplace can force you to make choices that...

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Stuck In Your Past And Blocked From Your Future

Uncategorized Jun 03, 2019

“Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.” Anais Nin

Too many of us are stuck in the past while being blocked from our future.

We all have a history. Some experiences bring back memories of joy, hope, love, and innocence. Other memories bring back feelings of cruelty, anger, sorrow, guilt, and resentment.

Our experiences are as unique to us as we are individual. Nothing is perfectly replicated.

With a past that is defined by pure happiness and success, continuing to move forward is simple. Life is wonderful, let’s keep rocking. I’ll take more of the same, please. Life is grand.

Rainbows and butterflies. That’s not reality.

This is the life of the sheltered. As pleasant as it sounds, living a charmed life by no means prepares you for the realities of life.

Entitlement is toxic. Life will never just give. There’s...

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The Life Lessons I’ve Learned And Why Its Never Too Late

Uncategorized Feb 03, 2019

There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time. Malcolm X

Nothing that we learn in life is too late. The experiences that didn’t go our way are meant to teach us, enrich us, strengthen us and guide us.

Wisdom isn’t something you acquire easily. It is the result of understanding the implications of your journey, both good and bad. You would not have the source (pain, loss, resistance) to grow as an individual if you didn’t have unfortunate circumstances. We need them to be the best version of ourselves.

Instead of defining these events as “too late in life,” choose to see them as wisdom gained and an education that no school can provide.

Here is a list of lessons that I have experienced, in no particular order of importance:

Nothing will ever be as important as your own personal health. Without it, you are not capable of helping others....

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Never Diminish Your Relationship Failures

Uncategorized Nov 12, 2018

“To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right.” Confucius

None of us enter a personal relationship with the expectation that it will end badly. Or at least, we shouldn’t. But we are flawed creatures. We are emotional. We are human.

We do our best and commit to being vulnerable and become open to both the beauty and the pain of love. Being completely open is the only way that we can be the best partners that we can be.

Unfortunately, being completely open will also expose our poor traits. It is on both ourselves and our partners to accept, embrace and love one another for all that we are, however good and bad. Leaving judgment at the door is critical if you are both courageous enough to be fully transparent.

Relationships consist of two people with...

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The Critical Imperative

story Oct 01, 2018

“To be prepared for war is one of the most effective means of preserving peace.” George Washington

There is nothing more important than taking care of yourself first. Before anything else in your life, you need to “get your shit together” concerning your own mental, physical and financial well being. It is an imperative of immeasurable importance. It cannot be stated more emphatically.

I make this pronouncement not from a place of opinion but one of personal experience, an incredibly painful experience. I lived the error from every angle. It almost killed me, literally.

My journey is your lesson, exemplified.

It has taken me four hard, long years to regain a semblance of my past self. The lessons were excruciatingly painful, but in retrospect, they’re worth it.

Please don’t be a fool nor naive in this context. Life is going to present challenges. It’s going to strike hard and with ruthless intent. You need to be prepared, or you are going to...

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The Meaning Of Life Explained Through My Father

Uncategorized Aug 14, 2018

“The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.” Fyodor Dostoyevsky

For the last 18 months, I have tried to meet my father for breakfast. He always tells me it’s too early in the am for me and then adds “son, I enjoy my quiet time. I read the paper and chat with my buddies”.

His disinterest would hurt at times but I respected his desire for solitude.

You see, my father is retired and no longer deeply engaged in meaningful work with others as he was for 45 years. He doesn't want to do much these days but watch war movies and take naps. It hurts my heart. He is reclusive and low energy. I feel as if he may be depressed. I am not sure.

My mother has been showing him my writings over the last few weeks and something wonderful is happening.

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” ―Maya Angelou

My father is blooming. He’s passionate. He wants to contribute...

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